What is love? A short handbook on how being in love/ relationship should make you feel

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I have always known that the respect in any relationship matters utmost. There are other things like being seen and heard that are mandatory for a relationship to thrive but here are some ways I have realised to see it in simpler tangible things. Whatever the nature of relationship might be- romantic or platonic. 

1. It should make you feel good about yourself. Very important. Non negotiable. Absolutely.

2. Also I don't think there is an accusatory tone in a healthy relationship

3. I think it should give you aspiration, some inspiration and not hold you back from wanting and expressing what you think you are


Some seriously good stuff from The Angry Therapist

1. Healthy feels like safety 

2. You having the ability to express yourself and nothing is taken away. There are no consequences.

3. Held not grabbed

4. Supportive, encouraging and CHAMPIONING your story

5. Helps connect you to yourself

6. It should not hold you back from wanting something because you should be able to want whatever you want.


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